Though I sympathise in a general way with the sentiment of your last paragraph ST, I would still urge that if you can it is best to be sensible to the needs of the individual, if known to you.
So again...we are veering away from discussing/debating with people on an internet forum...to those in our personal lives.
I do not discuss belief with people in my personal life unless they start discussing it with me first, or I know from previous experience they are open to discussing it. Which rarely happens. I do discuss it on internet forums.
This is why this thread is so confusing. We apply different rules to different situations. People who WANT to discuss their beliefs with atheists on an internet forum are not the same as people who do not like to discuss their beliefs because they are personal and precious to them. This thread keeps slipping into different situations and applying what we say and do here to ALL of them.
This is why I keep asking, are we talking about discussions/debates ON THIS FORUM or everywhere? People who participate in debates need to know that their opinions and strongly held beliefs WILL be challenged and dissected. It is naive to think they won't.
As I said before, I do not approach people and challenge their beliefs. I don't do it to my inlaws (who are VERY religious) I don't do it to strangers. I discuss belief on an internet forum designed for this purpose.
I had very strong faith...I lost it (or more correctly, ditched it). And not lightly. It was my choice to question MYSELF, no one did it for me. I could still be believing if I chose to ignore everything people say, and not explore what evolution REALLY is. And not be honest with myself. But I chose not to do that. Yes, it was a difficult pill to swallow. If you are not confident that you would survive having your belief challenged, don't debate it. Simple. Live in your fantasy world of your own creation.